The Relationship Factor

I was talking to a friend who is having some difficulties in her marriage. She shared how she tells her husband every day that she loves him but he rejects her love and affection. As she began to cry, I could sense her pain. Her heart was breaking.

Their wedding anniversary is coming soon. She shared how she hoped they could go to a nice dinner and spend time together but the way he was treating her wasn’t very reassuring.

As she was speaking, I thought about how we sometimes treat God and wondered how it makes Him feel.

God is constantly showing us His love. He pursues us, provides for us, waits patiently for us to turn to Him, is merciful and gracious toward us, never leaves us or forsakes us, never gives up on us.

How do we respond to God’s love? Are we grateful? Do we thank Him? Do we acknowledge Him? Do we talk to Him?

Just as my friend longed for her husband to spend time with her, God longs to spend time with us.

As we jump out of bed with just enough time to get dressed and get to where we need to be or do what we need to do, God is saying, “I would really love to spend time with you. I have so much I want to share with you. I’d love for you to get to know Me better.”

In the middle of our day, as we take a little break for lunch or a nap, God is saying, “I would love to have your attention for just a few minutes before you get busy again. Maybe we could go for a walk. Or maybe we could just sit here and talk a minute.”

At the end of our day, while we are winding down sitting in front of a television, computer, or book, God is saying, “We still have time to visit before you go to sleep. I’d love to hear about your day, your hopes and dreams, your hurts.”

We are made in the image of God. We have emotions and feelings. God has emotions too. I wonder how God feels when we ignore, reject, forget, disrespect, or don’t appreciate Him.

I’m thinking He feels a lot like my friend does when her husband treats her that very same way; sad, unwanted, and heartbroken.

God loves us so much that He gave His one and only Son to die as a sacrifice for our sins. Why? Because sin separates us from Him; a holy God. If we are separated from God He can’t be in a relationship with us.

When two people are in a relationship they spend time getting to know one another, talk to each other, appreciate one another in word and deed, and respect one another and what each one brings to the relationship.

People in relationship value one another, do things to show their love for one another, acknowledge one another, and honor each other above themselves.

There is a lot that goes into building a strong and lasting relationship. It doesn’t just happen overnight and it takes work but the results are so rewarding.

Salvation doesn’t take any work on our part. Jesus did all the work on the cross. But cultivating a relationship with the Lord takes time and effort.

What are the results of a vibrant relationship with God? Knowing we are loved unconditionally, perfectly, and completely, joy, peace, power, purpose, trust, affirmation, guidance, comfort, assurance, wisdom, understanding. The list goes on and on.

Choosing to not spend time with God doesn’t just hurt God, it hurts us as well.

Hebrews 11:6 And without faith it is impossible to please him, for whoever would draw near to God must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who seek him.

I don’t know about you but I’m thinking that getting up a little earlier in the mornings and turning off the television or computer to spend time with our loving generous heavenly Father would totally be worth it.

Let’s make more of an effort to show the Lord how much He means to us and how much we appreciate all He has done for us and is doing for us by taking time out of our busy day to acknowledge Him and thank Him.

Let’s talk to God and listen as He speaks to us through His word and His Holy Spirit. Let’s take advantage of all the benefits of the cross by cultivating the relationship God gave everything to have with us.

Revelation 3:20 Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with him, and he with me.

~Patrice Maguire

Dear God, I know I am a sinner, and I ask for Your forgiveness. I believe Jesus Christ is Your Son. I believe that He died for my sin and that You raised Him to life. I want to trust Him as my Savior and follow Him as Lord, from this day forward. Guide my life and help me to do Your will through the power of Your Holy Spirit. I pray this in the name of Jesus. Amen.



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